Love Yourself Enough to Trust Yourself

 

I consider my ability to follow my intuition a personal superpower. What’s yours? It is what you would consider to be the equivalent of a sixth sense. The thing that is your most natural ability and something you don’t think about often because it comes relatively easy. You probably take it for granted. My friends think my intuitiveness is a little bit creepy, and I appreciate that feedback because that’s how I know I’ve still got it.

There is a myth behind thinking logically versus listening to intuition. Most of us are taught to trust our minds for guidance but not our intuition or inner voice, we have to figure everything out logically. It’s when something isn’t feeling right, but you can’t put your finger on how to interpret it and your thoughts are being pulled in different directions. Or you may notice the same opportunities (or challenges) knocking on your door. When we lack clarity, we can find ourselves asking the universe for “a sign” and we will wait impatiently for a spontaneous ‘aha’ moment. 

Photographer, Wendy Alana

Photographer, Wendy Alana

 
 

“Get into the habit of asking yourself: Does this support the life I am trying to create” 

 

 

I’ve been following my instincts since before I even knew what intuition was, and there is no specific reason why. It wasn’t something that I was taught to do. Of course, there were occasions in my early adult life where I chose not to trust my intuition due a combination of peer pressure, what society teaches us is acceptable and lack of self-awareness. But outside of these moments of cloudy judgement (a.k.a. fear), my gut has never steered me in the wrong direction and I can see through behaviour and understand whether someone is being genuine, or not. Some people are born with a strong intuition and know how to tune into it, and others have a really hard time. I often observe people in both my work and home life struggling to make decisions, while I can intuitively navigate things for myself. But it’s not an easy practice to teach because the only person who can really understand your personal truth and what intuition is trying to tell you, is you. Let me try to explain…

Here’s comes the tough love. Just because you know you have an intuition does not mean you know how to listen to it. Intuition can be confused with fear and ego and that is something you need to be aware of. If a decision is being made out of fear, that is probably ego. If you are a logical thinker, you may find yourself calling to others for their opinion. You subconsciously seek that validation in order for something to feel right, because the majority rules, right? Unfortunately, it does not work that way. The real truth and the answers you’re looking for live deep within you and only you. For example, some people don’t always understand the choices I make initially, they sometimes seem far-fetched or maybe the less popular choice, but I can feel confident and happy even when the decision doesn’t seem rational. I fully trust myself regardless of the potential outcome(s).

 
 
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“Trust your intuition. You don’t need to justify or explain your feelings to anyone, just trust your own inner guidance, it knows best”

When you have a gut feeling, dig deep to learn how to tap in and connect with that. When we look back on our lives, the hardest choices have the greatest impact. Remember that because when these decisions feel impossible in the moment, often times we don’t make the change we intuitively know is necessary. It is the tough stuff that requires our intuition and usually involve the things that we identify ourselves with, like relationships, jobs, where we live, money, and our children. Though the repercussions can cause temporary feelings of loss, heartbreak, and stress, they also bring us our greatest life lessons that involve feelings of empowerment, courage, and hope—even when we can’t see that part right away. Write this down; You have to love yourself enough to trust yourself.

I get my deepest clarity when I am grounded which means I need to be less busy. I submerge myself in an environment that makes me feel the most like me, I occupy myself with joy. I didn’t always connect with my joy, but I do now. Becoming completely self-aware is the first step to understand what truly brings you joy, and why. It’s about taking the time and care to build connection and alignment, with yourself. Also universally referenced as, self-love. You’re probably wondering, how do you become self aware? The answer to that requires a commitment— spend quality time by yourself doing nothing. Turn off your devices! Go to a movie or go out for a meal alone. Get out in nature, walk, bike, run, read, write, touch a tree, whatever. Sit in those feelings while you are alone with your thoughts and connect with how you feel and why. WHY. WHY. WHY.

If your heart doesn’t skip a beat when you practice self-love (just like it does when you go on a first date) I’m here to tell you that you are not done with your work yet. Trust your intuition. You don’t need to justify or explain your feelings to anyone, just trust your own inner guidance, it knows best.

Sending so much love and joy your way today and every day!

 
 

 

“As a teacher and mentor, Dallas was very intuitive in being able to draw the highest productivity and quality of effort from our team members in what was a very demanding and fast paced environment”.

Dallas Lombardi